A man has been diagnosed with erectile dysfunction, or ED, and this time, it’s your man. It’s a straightforward situation, right? All he needs to do is visit the doctor, buy Viagra, and everything will go back to normal. At least that’s what happens on the commercials. Television fails to illustrate how deep the pain and suffering is for a woman whose man has ED. Consider a few tips to help you get through this challenging time and come out the other side with a stronger relationship than you had before.

First, don’t blame yourself. Women tend to do this and believe that the ED is their fault in some way. Maybe you feel like you’re unattractive or you didn’t do the right things to stimulate him. This is likely to be nowhere near the truth. Almost every man will experience some form of ED at some point in his life. It is caused by stress, depression, or other reasons that aren’t really known. For some men, the problem keeps happening. While ED is a sexual issue, most of the time, its causes lie in other physical conditions like high blood pressure, heart disease, and diabetes.

It’s very important that you don’t start grilling your guy with endless questions. Don’t trying to get him to admit that he’s cheating and that’s why he’s not attracted to you anymore. Any man will see this kind of action as an attack and will retaliate or withdraw, resulting in a vicious cycle that’s very hard to stop. Once this cycle starts, communication ends and the relationship’s demise may not be far behind. The best thing that you can do is listen to your partner and try to understand this disorder for what it is: a medical condition. Be supportive and understand his treatment options. Things will perk up.